THE STRANGER IN MY HOME
  • Home
  • Vignettes
    • Encounters
    • Events
    • Experiences
    • Epiphanies
  • Stories
  • Fables
  • Translations
  • Miscellany
  • Now/Then

now  /  then

blogs and blends

Speaking Truth to Power

5/5/2019

0 Comments

 
I knew Ravi was a controversial person. I did not know how controversial.
 
He joined the administrative department where I worked and was allotted an office next to mine. We quickly became friends.
 
He was a good-looking, articulate man, who came, did his work and went home. He did not seem particularly social; he made no effort to cultivate his colleagues in our department. But I went out of my way to talk to him, for he seemed an interesting person. Guarded at first, he gradually turned affable. I invited him for lunch to a Japanese restaurant. He invited me for dinner at his home. I found his wife charming and enjoyed meeting his young son and daughter.
 
It was then that I discovered that he had a large circle of friends and he maintained a very social life. He had parties every week. They were lively affairs and I became a fixture. Ravi not only invited me every time, he took great care to make sure I met all his friends and was very generous in his remarks while introducing me.
Picture
​I realized that he had many friends because he was remarkably thoughtful with them. He enjoyed their company, and he went to great lengths to make their visits to his home enjoyable. He was the most punctilious host I had ever known, constantly checking you had enough canapés and your glass was full.
 
Ravi had moved to our department from the marketing division, where he had been a rising star for several years. Somehow his stock had suddenly sunk and he was abruptly transferred to our department under a cloud. I never judge a man by the rumors he evokes; I did not ask Ravi what caused his ejection from another part of the company.
 
Quite by accident the marketing director, Parikh, called me for a meeting. He said his division was planning a strategy session to deal with new market trends and the finance director had recommended my name as a source of maverick ideas. I was flattered, but I was attracted even more by Parikh’s interest in new ideas. He appeared genuinely anxious to innovate.
 
The session took place three weeks later. The entire time I worked with Parikh in developing alternative strategies, some of them quite novel and unusual, and they proved invaluable in generating probing questions and heated discussion. Parikh and his colleagues thought it was a successful meeting and invited me to a celebratory dinner at Parikh’s home.
 
It was a very pleasant evening. We basked in the glow of a successful project and some thought it would lead to money-spinning initiatives. Parikh was in an upbeat mood and insisted, at a late hour after dinner, that we all share in his favorite cognac. Unexpectedly, the conversation turned to Ravi and his ejection from the marketing division.
 
Parikh turned out to have been the main force in engineering his removal and proudly declared that, with Ravi gone, the division would function bettter. He went a step further and said, “Ravi was quite a worthless fellow. I think our division is better off without him.
 
Sitting in front of him were all his important deputies. One quickly responded, “No question, he was quite worthless.” The one next to him felt he had to take up the cue and said, “I am glad he is out of our division. He was useless.” The others, perhaps aided by their inebriation, promptly added to the chorus. One referred to Ravi as a “known rascal” and another chose to nominate him a “total bastard.”
 
Suddenly, Parikh turned to me and said, “I hear he has become your close friend. I am sorry if it bothers you, but Ravi was really a bastard.”
 
The cognac had begun, in the last few minutes, to taste a little tasteless. I took a breath.
 
I said to Parikh, “I know Ravi for only a few months. Many of you know him for years. You know him much better. If you think he is a bastard, he must be one.
 
“But, you see, I can only speak of what I know. Not only I can, I must. I must bear witness to the truth that I have seen and known.
 
“Let me tell you what that truth is. I know that Ravi is a wonderful husband. A loving, affectionate father.
 
“I also know that Ravi is a hard worker and a helpful colleague.
 
“Above all, I know that he is a superb and thoughtful and caring friend.
 
“So, I don’t care if he is a bastard. I care that he is a loyal friend and I cherish his friendship. That is the truth I know. I will testify to that truth from the housetop, to my last breath, for that is only truth I have known.”
 
There was a stunned silence. A young no-status newcomer wasn’t expected to dare such a riposte to a senior director and his drumbeaters.
 
For a loquacious man, Parekh remained quiet for a long time.
 
Then he quietly said, “Manish is quite right to stand up for his friend.” Then he had the extraordinary sense to correct himself, “Rather, he is right to stand up for what he thinks is the truth.”
0 Comments



Leave a Reply.

    Manish Nandy

    Writer, Speaker, Consultant
    Earlier: Diplomat, Executive


    Archives

    January 2022
    December 2021
    October 2021
    September 2021
    August 2021
    July 2021
    January 2021
    December 2020
    November 2020
    October 2020
    September 2020
    August 2020
    July 2020
    June 2020
    May 2020
    April 2020
    March 2020
    February 2020
    January 2020
    December 2019
    November 2019
    October 2019
    September 2019
    August 2019
    July 2019
    June 2019
    May 2019
    April 2019
    March 2019
    February 2019
    January 2019
    December 2018
    November 2018
    October 2018
    September 2018
    August 2018
    July 2018
    June 2018
    May 2018
    April 2018
    March 2018
    February 2018
    January 2018
    December 2017
    November 2017
    October 2017
    September 2017
    August 2017
    July 2017
    June 2017
    May 2017
    April 2017
    March 2017
    February 2017
    January 2017
    December 2016
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016
    August 2016
    July 2016
    June 2016
    May 2016
    April 2016
    March 2016
    February 2016
    January 2016
    December 2015
    November 2015
    October 2015
    September 2015
    August 2015
    July 2015
    June 2015

    RSS Feed


    Categories

    All

Proudly powered by Weebly
© Manish Nandy 2015  The Stranger in My Home